About two years after facing my abuse, I often heard myself saying, “I should be healed by now.”

Greetings Everyone,

We are continuing with our topic about males who have been assaulted sexually. The information we are sharing is tried and proven.  And if you know of anyone who has been assaulted sexually share this information with them.

Mr. Murphey is well known as an author, teacher, mentor, minister, and for his work with males who have been victimized sexually.  Cecil’s story will give clarity to the impact on men who have been assaulted sexually. He also offers information about how we can help during the healing process.

Shalom,
Darlene J. Harris, Servant

 Cec Murphey

Dr. Cecil Murphey is well known as an author, teacher, mentor, minister, and for his work with males who have been victimized sexually.  Cecil’s story will give clarity to the impact on men who have been assaulted sexually. He also offers information about how we can help during the healing process.

I Want to Be Healed

Those of us who were sexually molested yearn to be healed. Sometimes we get impatient. We tell ourselves we ought to be free of the painful memories and horrible effects of our assault.

About two years after facing my abuse, I often heard myself saying, “I should be healed by now.” When I spoke those words, I didn’t understand the per­vasiveness of molestation. I wanted to be completely free from my past abuse and to have the memories wiped away.
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Life doesn’t work that way. Healing is a process—and the word process means that the changes don’t happen quickly.

When I consider process, three things stand out. First, sexuality involves our total selves—mind, body, emotions, and spirit. God created us that way, and sexual­ity is a powerful force in our lives.

Second, our abuse took place in secret, and it happened when we were young and innocent. We lived with our hidden anguish for years.

Third, it took a long time before we were ready to face our pain and reach for healing. Deep healing comes slowly. To acknowledge that reality is a powerful factor in learning to endure.

Be kind to yourself. Think of each day as taking you forward toward a full resolution of your pain. As Alcoholics Anonymous says it, “One day at a time.”

Healing is a process. 

I’ll be patient with myself.
 

Author: queendjh

Introducing Darlene Janice Harris "I do not want Christ's death to be found vain in me. Therefore, each step I take must count and be purposefully forged for someone's growth toward God's desire and His glory." Experience: Ministry Development, Public Speaking, Workshop Creation.