Gary Roe is the award-winning author of multiple books including Comfort for Grieving Hearts, Teen Grief, Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child, and Please Be Patient I’m Grieving. A trusted and compassionate voice in grief recovery, Gary currently serves as a hospice chaplain and grief counselor in central Texas. Known for his engaging style and sense of humor, he is also a popular speaker at a wide variety of venues. Visit him at www.garyroe.com.
Trusting the Right Person
Trusting that you will make things right, If I surrender to your will, So that I may be reasonably happy in this life And supremely happy with you forever in the next.
This is the conclusion to Reinhold Niebuhr’s Serenity Prayer. Trust is huge. Without trust, there can be no serenity. Without serenity, there can be no real happiness.
As a sexual abuse survivor, trust is difficult for me. Yet God designed me to trust him. He planned me, created me, and included me in his love story. I want to live my destiny and be “reasonably happy” in my day-to-day living.
Happy? That’s a word I don’t allow myself to think of too often. Perhaps I think it’s beyond my reach. If happy means pleased, content, joyful, and peaceful, I long for happiness. I want to be loved and be more loving toward others. I would like to be transparently real and surrender to God more fully.
He will make all things right. Things are not simply what they appear. There is far more going on than I’m aware. Can I trust that the one in authority, my Creator and Savior, will work out all things for my good, even when those in power when I was a child choose to abuse me?
Yes. He is teaching me. I can heal. I might actually become reasonably happy.
As I trust God loves me and works for my good
I can begin to experience more real happiness.
(This post is adapted from Not Quite Healed, by Cecil Murphey and Gary Roe)
Posted by Cecil “Cec” Murphey @ Shattering the Silence Friday, July 29, 2016
Permission to use: Veteran author Cecil (Cec) Murphey hurt for a long time because of childhood sexual abuse. Now he helps others in pain through his candid interviews, seminars, blog for male survivors (www.menshatteringthesilence.blogspot.com) and his books When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman’s Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation and Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Another book, More than Surviving, will release in early 2017. (www.cecilmurphey.com)