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Three Methods for Difficult Listening
The first method for all kinds of difficult listening is to STOP. For the easier situations, simply stop talking, texting, walking, or daydreaming. For the more difficult ones, stop yelling, running, begging, or placating. Get distance. Moderate the voice.
The second method for all kinds of difficult listening is to LOOK. Look at nonverbals. Observe behaviors. Guess at feelings and their possible causes. Look at consequences. Observe results. Become quietly, calmly, hyper-aware of everything.
The third method for all kinds of difficult communication is to LISTEN. Put into practice all the tips and principles presented here under Listening Principles and Listening Language. Watch for further training here, specific to each kind of difficult listening.
For all Six Kinds of Difficult Listening, the methods are Stop, Look, and Listen. These methods do save lives.
Next- Applying these methods for managing diversity, persistent ignorance, conflict, generalized anxiety, verbal abuse, and malicious intent.
Listening Is . . .
The key to unlock difficult conversations.
The needle pulling the conversational thread.
The bottom line to look for and increase.
The last link to everything you’ve ever wanted.
Lubrication in the gears of communication, and community.
Solvent to loosen toxins.
Salve to absorb pain and begin healing.
Safe place held to preserve dignity.
The Gift We Give Each Other Here
The gift we give each other here is that of listening.
Listening is not approval, not “Yes” or “No,” or “Right” or
Listening is not advice, not giving solutions or making corrections.
Listening is not taking action, fixing problems or choosing for
Even when we are wrong or distraught, the best gift we give each
other is to listen.
To listen is to accept, to say, “Thanks for being real and sharing
it”; this frees us to really be.
To listen is to affirm the existence of another; true solutions come
only to those who accept existence without solutions.
To listen is to be there while another grows; growing happens best
in the presence of a friend.
The gift we give each other here is that of listening
Adventures in Pattern Poetry by Wilma Zalabak,
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