Have you ever been in a situation and come out much stronger than you thought you were? Or overcome an illness or an issue in life that was dark? But to your surprise, you bounced back quicker, wiser, or even better than you were before? Well, that’s what resilience is.
Many women are resilient in life. They have developed the mental capacity, which allows them to adapt. They can bounce back after adversity. Or when tragedy invades their lives. Or in general life issues.
As a victim of emotional, domestic, and sexual abuse, I was in a very dark and broken place. Even so, it was where I developed the character trait of being resilient. Learning to do this didn’t happen overnight. It was progressive some days, weeks, and years. It was not easy and by far more painful than I could imagine.
I’m thankful I have overcome these misfortunes in my life. By learning different approaches to issues that come in life, I can bounce back and adapt to any event in life.
Some of the strategies that help me to get victory in these areas were:
- Responsibility -Taking charge of my life by becoming responsible for myself.
- Imagination -Seeing myself in a better place, a better day.
- Self-control -Processing my thoughts and emotions rather than recoiling.
- Disarming attitude – Circumstances, people, and things that would trigger an unwarranted reaction.
- Condemning myself -Deciding to let go and forgive, which is so freeing.
These practices left me better equipped to respond appropriately instead of blowing-up.
I thank God I’m better, anyone can be, by taking the time to invest in their health and well-being. So put in the work of your personal growth and development. With God’s help, healing and wholeness are possible.
In closing, I’d like to encourage you to remember that no matter what you are going through. No matter when dark times come into your life, it may be mental health issues, divorce or grief, or any brokenness. You can grow and change into a stronger you, trust me, all the pieces will come together, and nothing will be wasted. You never know what you will discover; perhaps your purpose is in your brokenness. I did! So, learn the ins-and-outs of your process because what you will gain will be the answers for someone else. Believe me; there’s nothing like living life well, full and resilient.
Gaila Lee Thomas is the CEO of Daughters of the Covenant Ministries. She is a student at Cincinnati Christian University graduating 2020 with her BA in Christian Ministries with a concentration in Organizational Leadership. Education is important to Gaila therefore, she will continue by pursuing a Masters in Pastoral Counseling, specializing in relationship, marriage, and grief and finishing with a Ph.D. in Psychology. Gaila is one of the Founders of The Christian Sorority “Alpha Omega Chi” Which grooms ladies using biblical principles on how to a successful life.
Gaila takes pride in her accomplishments. She is purpose-driven and determined to fulfill her destiny in life. Her vision is to build leaders, ministries then oversee them.
Gaila has four children and is a grandmother too. She loves life and people and is working hard to make sure she finishes well by leaving a legacy for her family and her name in the earth through writings that will benefit young girls and women of all ages.
Gaila favorite quote:
“You must decide if you are going to rob the world or bless it with the rich, valuable, potent, untapped resources locked away within you.” –Myles Munroe