Parental Alienation Information

Psychologically and emotionally manipulating children, teenagers or young adults by trying to destroy the sacred bond between a loving parent and their child (this includes teens & young adults), using planned strategies is CHILD ABUSE called PARENTAL ALIENATION^[1] This is done for many reasons commonly at the time of divorce by a sick, not bad parent, called the alienating parent (as opposed to the alienated parent).

FIRST, our National Campaign is focusing on bringing more awareness to this MENTAL CHILD ABUSE called parental alienation. We want more people to understand this abuse and realize that we must fervently help these millions of suffering children(this includes teens & young adults). In addition, since divorce has become very common, so has this abuse which will become even more widespread, unless we take measures to stop it.

Once we have more awareness and understanding:

1) Our National Campaign is focusing on parents who use Parental Alienation strategies to obtain full custody so he or she:

• can receive monetary and tax benefits for having full custody ^[2]

• and does not have to pay child support; both which can be very substantial amounts.

These parents, referred to as the alienating parent (as opposed to the alienated parent), are using the laws to obtain these monetary and tax benefits while destroying the sacred bond between a loving parent and child by interfering with the special parent/child relationship^[3]

Millions of children suffering from this CHILD ABUSE have PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME. since they have given in to these strategies and have alienated their loving, fit parent^[4] whom they now hate or fear without any justification.^[5]

2) Our National Campaign is also focusing on getting to the root of the problem by making sure our laws no longer allow a parent to:

• hide assets in any divorce proceedings by moving the assets to other entities, and using accounting and tax strategies to hide assets that were created during the marriage or were part of the marital or community estate. Hiding assets results in an unjust division of these assets when the Judge does not demand full disclosure. This further encourages the Child Abuse called Parental Alienation since the child must now look only to the alienating parent for support and love since he or she demands they alienate their loving, fit parent and this child needs the alienating parent for financial survival and love. ^[6]

It is well documented that this CHILD ABUSE  called PARENTAL ALIENATION is causing many medical, psychological and emotional issues^[7] for millions of children  in the United States alone and that a majority of children of divorce will experience some parental alienation strategies.^[8]

Often these parents enlist others to help employ their strategies like doctors, therapists, schools, clergy, lawyers and even judges.^[9]

Please join our National Campaign to get to the root of the problem by making sure our laws:

•  Protect millions of children by discouraging, not encouraging parents from using Child Abuse strategies of Parental Alienation for monetary and tax benefits, which is destroying the sacred bond between millions of loving parents and their child

AND

•  Prohibit a parent or spouse to hide assets during divorce proceedings resulting in unjust divorce settlements. This encourages the Child Abuse of Parental Alienation since the alienating parent often demands the child alienate their loving, fit parent or they will lose this alienating parent’s financial support and love.

It is in the best interest of a child if they receive Love and Support from BOTH parents.^[10]

The purpose of our laws and those who enforce these laws is to provide JUSTICE FOR ALL^[11], not to provide justice for those who use harmful strategies and insider legal privileges^[12] to harm our children or manipulate our laws to create unjust divorce settlements; prohibiting BOTH fit parents from contributing EQUALLY to their children’s financial and emotional needs.

Also, other pages on the website as well as blogs on the left side of every page under recent posts, have very helpful information.

http://www.palienation.org/

 

Parental Alienation Solutions Facebook page also have very enriching posts about this child abuse called Parental Alienation, affecting millions of children and families in our society today.

https://www.facebook.com/ParentalAlienationSolutions

 

Also, please feel free to leave a comment on the Parental Alienation Solutions’ Facebook page and Sara will respond to you personally. This is a major problem in our society today affecting millions.

 

Background/Footnotes:

[1]- Kruk, E. (2013). Psychology Today; “The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children” Amy Baker writes parental alienation involves a set of strategies, including bad-mouthing the other parent, limiting contact with that parent, erasing the other parent from the life and mind of the child (forbidding discussion and pictures of the other parent), creating the impression that the other parent is dangerous, forcing the child to choose between the parent.

Les Linet MD Innocent Bystanders Who Aid & Abet Parental Alienation(2011);
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtM1U2jrGk4

National expert Dr. Amy Baker – Research on the consequences of Parental Alienation ( 2010)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXwIbsSRFrU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UmIdzAEy6Y4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9IH3WHlpgqQ

CNN- Parental Alienation Syndrome (2009);
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u38LzlYp78k http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fXohR6rvJs

The Gregory Mantell Show- Parental Alienation(2008);
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cgTIgy0Svs

Parent Alienation Revisited Host Mel Feit. Amy Baker, PH.D, Richard Smulczeski, Lieutenant/NYC Fire Dept.,Jacqueline Harounian, Attorney (2008)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTnT8ozaf6g;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pTkDvC9PPBU

[2]- Hassman vs. Hassman, 09D002792, (2009)Superior Court of California, County of Orange, Lamoreaux Justice Center.

1) The law must no longer allow Judges to issues restraining orders at the request of a parent during the marriage, or after a divorce without any rational basis or any evidence of being an unfit parent.

The current law allows the alienating/strategizing parent to paint the alienated parent as a dangerous, harmful person who the child or teen should fear or hate when truthfully this parent is kind and responsible and there has not been any evidence showing an unfit parent over a reasonable period of time (not as a reaction to the parental alienation strategies which often happens as the sources cited explain)

The current law allows restraining orders to be used as a tool to encourage parental alienation and allows the alienating parent to destroy the bond between the loving parent and child/teen.

2) The law must be changed to provide sanctions to a parent for not allowing the child/teen (who they now have obtained full custody for) to accept any gifts or money from the other parent so this alienating/strategizing parent can receive the tax benefits for providing 100% of the child/teen’s support. This current tax law encourages parental alienation instead of encouraging the parent/child relationship.

3) The current law must be changed to allow BOTH divorcing parents monetary and tax benefits ONLY if they have 50/50 shared custody. The current law allows only the parent who has full custody to receive these benefits, which encourages a parent to destroy the sacred bond between the loving parent and child/teen to gain full custody so he or she can receive these monetary and tax benefits. Changing this law would serve as a deterrent to Parental Alienation.

4) The current law must be changed to recognize Parental Alienation as a legal cause of action so the alienating/strategizing parent would know he or she could be fined or sanctioned for destroying the bond between the loving parent and child/teenager or for committing strategies of parental alienation.

As many experts have proven, there are specific patterns of behavior of both parents and the children or teenagers which are clearly the result of a parent using Parental Alienation Strategies.

5) The current law must be changed to require fines or sanctions against any individual, organization or institution for assisting this alienating parent in his strategies of Parental Alienation.

For example, knowingly or intentionally:

• violating the divorce degree by not notifying or including the alienated parent
• writing or submitting a false report or statement to the Court or any publication
• continuing to behave in ways that are NOT in the best interest of the child/teen
• KNOWINGLY accepting funds from a 3rd party on behalf of the alienating/strategizing parent, for the benefit of the child/teen so this alienating parent does not have to report this income on his or her W-2 which prohibits the alienating parent from receiving the proper amount of support to be better able to financially help the child/teen. This encourages parental alienation because the children believe they need this alienating/strategizing parent for financial survival and LOVE.

If the alienated parent received the proper amount of support, both parents, not just the alienating/strategizing parent would have the financial means to help their children.

6) The current law allowing a child or teen to choose the parent they want to live with must be changed.

Instead, for each divorce the law should require that if both parents want shared custody, they each should be given 50/50 custody;

To deviate from this law, there must be evidence showing the parent has a pattern of unfit behavior over a reasonable period of time; not merely unusual behaviors prior to the divorce (which is often brought on by the parental alienation as the references cited explain. Often the alienating parent will use strategies to make the alienated parent look unfit).

Simultaneously, the Judge must assist an unfit parent in obtaining the immediate support needed to be brought up to the level of being fit so shared custody can be awarded as this is in the child’s best interest.

(ex, by requiring the parent attend an AAA program like when a reckless driver is required to attend driving classes)

In the meantime, frequent visitation, even supervised, if necessary must begin since it is in the children best interest to not be deprived of seeing their parent and even watching him or her make positive changes; like recovering from alcoholism unlessthis parent refuses to attend the program ordered by the judge or refuses to listen to the supervisor during supervised visitation.

[3]-Baker, A. (2010). Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties That Bind

[4]– 1) I met Sara about 3 years ago when she was volunteering. I have found Sara has always shown and expressed very good values.

I think that it is not right that her ex-husband is not encouraging their children to have any relationship with Sara. I believe that this is not in the childrens’ best interests, I have lived through a similar situation in my life and it was not healthy for the children. I know that Sara’s children would greatly benefit from a re-newed relationship with their mother so that they could see, now that they are older, the type of caring individual that she is and experience the values by which she lives her life.

Ralph R. Resnick
Ritual Director
Sinai Temple (2012)(written to help alienated mother when father filed a criminal law suit against her which was dismissed due to lack of merit. Typically the alienating/strategizing parent makes false allegations against the alienated parent as a strategy to make the child/teen fear or hate the alienated parent- The Gregory Mantell Show- Parental Alienation(2008); http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cgTIgy0Svs).

2) “Sara is the very proud mother of three children who have attended and are attending the High School where I have worked for 32 years. I recruit and work with parent volunteers for the school and Sara has been one of the best. Sara added strength, passion, and commitment to our efforts.”

Terry, Leadership and Planned Giving,(2009)(appeared in High School announcement and on internet)

3) Sara volunteered to tutor inner city grade school children in reading; her supervisor’s note: Hi Sara, I’m very happy to hear that things are going so well! I’m sure the school really appreciates all your help. I too am very thankful for all that you’re doing for the school. Josue (2012)

[5]-Kruk, E. (2013). Psychology Today, Supra. Psychiatrist Richard Gardner developed the concept of “parental alienation syndrome” Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification.

Kruk, E. (2011). Divorced Fathers: Children’s Needs and Parental Responsibilities, Halifax.

Fidler, B. and Bala, N. (2010). “Children resisting post separation contact with a parent: Concepts, controversies, and conundrums.” Family Court Review, 48 (1), 10-47.

[6]– The current Federal and State laws must be changed to protect the sacred parent and child or teen bond which is in the best interest of the child/teen as these references cited explain.

These laws MUST require in a divorce proceeding and settlement the showing of ALL assets by both parents or spouses which MUST be used to calculate the division of the marital or community estate and also spousal support in a divorce settlement; not solely W-2 income which was used in the case cited at the beginning of [2], as one example.

A parent who violates this law and hides assets and other income MUST be sanctioned since this is fraud and a deliberate misrepresentation upon the Court and others; tantamount to lying on a financial statement to obtain a loan.

a) As a sanction for hiding the assets and income, this parent must only receive 1/3 not 1/2 of the net value amount of the hidden asset (fair market value less any liabilities) and the other parent receives 2/3rds

b) Spousal support or Alimony must be determined by:

1. the net worth of the assets (fair market value less any liability )
2. and the income produced by the total of each and every individual asset and their combinedtotal.

Each parent or spouse should receive ½ of the amount of the total of 1 and 2. However, if one parent takes care of the child/teen exceeding 50% of the time, that parent must receive that percentage of the child support. For ex; 60% of the child support instead of 50%

This Federal and State law will eliminate the incentive for a parent or spouse to hide his or her total assets and income by setting up LLCs, LLPs and other entities and using other accounting maneuvers to hide assets and income which the alienated parent is legally entitled to since these were created during the marriage.

For example, setting up benefit plans, profit sharing plans and even transferring income and profits to 3rd parties.

Also, these laws must require that this financial information is not a matter of public record and can only be released upon a court order.

[7]- Kruk, E. (2013). Psychology Today, Supra.

The severe effects of parental alienation on child and teens are well-documented; low self esteem, lack of trust, depression, and substance abuse. and other forms of addiction; self-hatred and shame as they internalize the hatred targeted toward the alienated parent and others.

Baker, A. (2010). “Adult recall of parental alienation in a community sample: Prevalence and associations with psychological maltreatment.” Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, 51, 16-35. Baker, A. (2005). The cult of parenthood: A qualitative study of parental alienation. Cultic Studies Review, 4(1),

Wolpe, J. (1997). From psychoanalytic to behavioral methods in anxiety disorders: A continuing evolution. In: J. K.Zeig (Ed.), The evolution of psychotherapy: The third conference. New York.

[8]- Nationally recognized expert Dr. Amy Baker, PhD and Michael McCormick, Executive Director of American Coalition for Fathers said in 80% of divorces with children today there is some Parental Alienation strategy being used.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRSJWi2Se78 (2012);
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fXohR6rvJs CNN(2009)

According to the U.S. Census Bureau; 2011 American Community Survey:

• approximately 50 percent of marriages in the United States will end in divorce
• approximately HALF of all American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage
• the number of children, ages 0-18 in the US in 2011 living in households , which includes those married and some of those cohabiting, but not same sex couples was 93.3 million which means 46.6 million children will be children of divorce and this does not include young adult children over the age of 18, many still living at home.
• and 80% of those; over 37 Million children and teens in the US will experience some PARENTAL ALIENATION STRATEGIES. This number is staggering.

[9]-*******Les Linet MDInnocent Bystanders Who Aid & Abet Parental Alienation (2011)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtM1U2jrGk4

********The Gregory Mantell Show — Parental Alienation (2008)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3cgTIgy0Svs

[10]– Kruk, E.(2013).Psychology Today, Supra; What children of divorce most want and need is to maintain healthy and strong relationships with bothof their parents.

[11]–U.S. Constitution including the 14th Amendment Equal Protection Clause which applies to the States:

Constitution:

We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.

Article I, Section. 8-The Congress shall have Power To: … provide for the common Defense and general Welfare of the United States; …..To make all Laws which shall be necessary and proper for carrying into Execution the foregoing Powers, and all other Powers vested by this Constitution in the Government of the United States, or in any Department or Officer thereof.

Equal justice under law is engraved on the front of the United States Supreme Court building in Washington D.C. and the Court is charged with ensuring the American people the promise of equal justice under law.

The 14th Amendment:

The Equal Protection Clause of Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution provides that “no state shall … deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.”

[12]- Hassman vs. Hassman, 09D002792, (2009)Superior Court of California, County of Orange, Lamoreaux Justice Center:

• The judge used ONLY the W-2 prepared by the alienating parent himself in his business, financial capacity to calculate the alienated parent’s divorce settlement and spousal support.
• The judge ignored the total amount of community property assets to be divided from this 23 year marriage

AND ALSO

• ignored the income derived from these assets.

This was a deliberate misrepresentation by the alienating parent and possibly the attorneys and others on his behalf upon the Court, the alienated parent and others.

– Federal Tax Code
– BNA Tax Management Portfolio 515, (2000 – Present)