Must the Other Apologize

Hello everyone,

A new year is approaching, and I want to wish you greatness and peace in the new year.

My objective is to encourage myself and you to walk into 2016 with a renewed spirit and a forgiving heart.

The below article is a reblog post from Dr. Robert Enright at The International Forgiveness Institute. I thought it would be a good note to end 2015 and start 2016.

Thank you for your support during the year and I’m looking forward to a new year with you.


Your servant, Darlene J Harris

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A person wrote to us recently to ask: Should I wait for the other person’s apology (repentance) before I forgive? Some philosophers such as Haber and Griswold argue that forgiveness is only legitimate if there first is an apology. And isn’t there a Bible verse saying that if your brother repents then you forgive him?

We are addressing the question here in the Blog (rather than in our Ask Dr. Forgiveness section) because of the lengthy reply and because we wish to give as many people as possible the chance to see and respond to the answer.

Some people reason that it is in the best interest of an unjustly-treated person to wait for an apology. Some reason that this is best even for forgiveness itself because it preserves the moral quality of forgiveness, by demanding something of the other, by trying to bring out the best in the offender.

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